Did you preinstall this grid software? It needs to be 220.127.116.11 to work with 12.2 with startCD 51.
Using Oracle 12c Release 1 (12.1) Real Application Clusters with Oracle E-Business Suite Release R12.2 (Doc ID 1626606.1)
You should also consider having the ASM instance named +ASM rather than +ASM1.
we are not usinh startcd51, its startcd46, we have installed grid 18.104.22.168, EBS version is R12.2.0,
I didnt get why the name should be +ASM instead of +ASM1
Long ago faced similar issue with startCD46 , in my case group and user equlance is the cause
Please review the using a higher version of grid infrastructure section of the following note (Appendix H):
Using Oracle 11g Release 2 Real Application Clusters and Automatic storage management with Oracle E-Business Suite Release 12.2 (Doc ID 1453213.1)
If you are starting out now with startCD 46, you are going to have to immediately upgrade to 22.214.171.124 or 126.96.36.199 database and FMW from 188.8.131.52 to 184.108.40.206 plus about 100+ ETCC patches to every Oracle Home before you can upgrade to anything higher than 12.2.3. This is why most people recommend rebuilding the staging area with the latest startCD 51 code.
Oracle E-Business Suite Release 12.2: Consolidated List of Patches and Technology Bug Fixes (Doc ID 1594274.1)